My oldest, my son, was a big challenge for me up to the point when I learned his design. In the Human Design System, he is a Manifestor. He needs no one else to achieve what he wants, an independent, and proactive type that does not take no for an answer. Human Design Manifestors make up about 10% of the population, which makes his behaviour stand out even more. He also has a dominant knowing circuit and strong intuition, unshakable confidence, and emotional authority that experiences strong emotional waves. He possesses a great logic resonance, and he will logically fight his way out of every argument. However, despite all this, he has strong emotional intelligence and is a very sensitive soul.
Closed and repelling Aura
Human Design Manifestors have this strong presence; their aura is closed and repelling. Just by being there, their energy is dominant. Before I knew all this, I was constantly fighting him and his energy. The more I fought, the more he resisted. I tried to assert authority over him, to make him listen and respect me as a parent. However, kids are much better at picking up on frequencies than words, and my frequency was that of someone who is not in control, who is unsure. I wasn’t sure because I knew I wasn’t doing it right, but I didn’t know any differently. And this little manifestor was taking full advantage of my insecurity.
The strategy every Manifestor in an adult age needs to follow is to inform the people around them about their actions. Manifestors have this strong initiating power to go and do things without the need to tell anyone what they will be doing.
Learning his design was truly an eye-opening moment for me. As if everything fell into place at once, I saw his truth in that chart. The battles he was fighting with me, were not about defying me, it was the fight for the survival of his integrity, his inner truth. I understood where he was coming from.
Searching for Peace
You see, demanding him to be less dominant and asking him to shrink to better fit our perception of appropriate behaviours would rob him of his superpowers. In this scenario, he would learn to play small, and he would go through his life shrinking his big energy to fit and people-please.
I am so grateful to have found this incredible system before the damage was done and before his teenage years. All manifestors want in life is to be at peace, with themselves and with everyone around them. Sure, he still pushes my buttons, but I am better at managing both of our energies. I now know how to stand my ground and be a strong and confident guide to him. As a manifestor, he knows where he is going, and he needs us as parents to jump on his train and support him. And as with everything, this too is a work in progress, but we operate on a different level now, I know when to push through and when to let go. At the end of the day, we always find our way to a place of peace.
With Love,
Petra